No Guys, It’s Not Me!!!

Well, ever since I published my last post, I am flooded with concerned e-mails and notes from my friends and well-wishers to enquire if I am facing the mentioned situation. So, let me clear it once and for all, It’s Not Me!!!

I am too busy nursing my infection and missing my baby. But I must admit the sudden concern and attention is flattering!!! I didn’t know I have made such caring friends at blogville! Cool hain Yaar!!! Thanks for that….

Anyways, the question came to my mind when I was chatting with an old friend (now married) who happened to bumped into her ex who had hurt him once and then moved on in his life. She ignored him and wanted to know from me if she did the right thing. That inspired me to write the post. But anyways, it was quite nice to know about people’s opinion in such a situation that is pretty common these days.

Coming on to me, my infection is a lot better than before. I am healing at a fast pace thanks to the wishes of all my friends and family members and I am hoping to re-unite with my baby somewhere in the next week. I have finished reading 3 mistakes of my life (review in the next post) and am feeling very relaxed now.

So, cheers to that!!!

Love to all my friends and well-wishers!
Parul

An Unusual Situation!!!

Someone hurts you real badly and then goes away (actually disappears) from your life.....It takes months for you to forget that hurt and that person......But finally you move on......Now you are happy in your life.....

After years the same person re-contacts you, as if nothing ever happened between both of you....And suddenly you are thrown back in your past with all those memories you long chose to forget.....

What do you do? or rather, What should you do?

a). Should you strike back after all those years?

b). Should you ignore him/her completely and be silent about it?

c). Should you forgive him/her and pretend it never affected you?

Its Infectious!!!!

Hi Guys,

Thank you all for liking my 'Realization' posts. The response is indeed very humbling and very encouraging. I am glad everyone has been able to connect with it. Though I am not yet over with the Realization series, but I am taking a little break from it today, for a change. I’ll keep adding more posts to the series in future. Today I just felt like blogging my heart out.

Well, the breaking news is, I have caught a viral infection (not naming it) that is pretty infectious (and damn painful aaahhhhh!!!)that takes at least 10-15 days to heal. As a result of which my dermatologist has advised me to keep Aarush (my 8 months old baby, if someone s reading for the first time) away for few days if possible, lest he catches the infection too. So I have left him with his Nani (my mother) till the time I am perfectly normal again.

Needless to say I am very upset, first because of the excruciating pain, and second and most important, because of Aarush’s absence. I am missing my baby just soooooooooo much. It’s only been one day he is away from me and I am already feeling he is away since ages. Though he is just a phone call away from me, but not seeing my baby is far more hurting than the pain itself. Hmmm, the day is looking so very dull and long. I am feeling as if I have nothing to do (those having a child knows how much time and attention a baby demands!!!). And unfortunately I can’t do anything about it.

But optimistic as I am, I have consoled myself that it is for his good that he is away and that he is in the safe hands. As far as my good is concerned, as long as Aarush is ok, even I am pretty ok with the infection thing. Though its painful, but theek hain yaar. It’s all a matter of few days. Yeh sab to chalta hi rehta hain.

So, being completely welli now, I am just wondering if there is any love more selfless than a mother’s love. Does selfless love truly exists in a romantic relationship? Or we just pretend it to be there? At least I feel that in a relationship, there is always some amount of selfishness involved/present between the partners and that no love can be more selfless than a mother’s love? What is your opinion on it and why?

Cheers
Parul

Realization #3

yes, this is my third realization....but unlike other posts, i dont have much to say in this post.....this image has said it all for me.............
if u have any words of wisdon for me, do lemme know.......

Love,
Parul...

Realization #2

Sometimes people dislike you for no apparent reason.

It is rightly said, You Can't Please Everyone

When I was a teenager, I was very naïve and innocent. I wanted to please everybody around me and be Ms Goody-Goody. I believed in the phrase, "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you", and so I assumed if I like other people and be nice to them, they would do the same.

But slowly as I started dealing with outside world, I started realizing that however much you do for others, there will still be few who’ll dislike you, bitch about you and would be unhappy with you, sometimes for a reason, and sometimes without any obvious reason. People who don’t even know an inch about you or your life will have all sorts of notions about you that will be anything but true. And sadly instead of being guilty about it, they’ll be pretty content in their sweet ignorance bliss.

Initially all these used to affect me a lot and hurt me real bad. I used to spent sleepless nights over the issue and even shed tears on the irony of human behavior. But now, after all these years the realization has finally dawned upon me and I have swallowed the bitter pill that it is impossible to please everyone.

“Please all, and you will please none.”

So, if today I find out that Mr X doesn’t think highly of me or Ms Y has some wrong notions about me, it hardly matters to me. I have accepted to take these things in my stride and move on without raising a hue or cry over it.

Realization #1

One major lesson that I have learnt from my life so far is that “Everything happens for a reason and ultimately for the Good”.

When I was young, every time something ‘bad’ (which by my definition means things didn’t happen the way I wanted them to happen) happened to me, my mother consoled me by saying that it happened for my good and that I’ll realize it sometime later in life. But I never actually got comforted by it. Instead I used to go on fretting and whining about the problem, contemplating the WHY ME questions.

But as years passed by and I relooked at my life events from a fresh perspective, I realized that my mother’s words were indeed true. It took me a long time, but eventually I could see that even in the worst situations there were wonderful gifts, hidden opportunities, or life-enhancing lessons. And that we couldn't have got them any other way. If it were not for those situations I wouldn’t have been the person I am today.

People come and go in our lives. Their entry or exit is destined, to serve some sort of purpose, probably teach a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. Sometimes they do certain things that may seem horrible, painful and unfair to you at that time, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you wouldn’t have realized your potential, strength, will power or heart. The good that comes out of the bad things help you become your best and the most authentic self.

Remember, problems will always be a part of life. There’ll be times when you wouldn’t be able to find meaning in your life events (After all, the events in our lives doesn't come with labels attached to them telling us what they mean!!!) and you’d have no one to answer your questions. But at all such times don’t let your emotions cloud your vision. Just remember, God works in mysterious ways, and as long as you walk with Him, and just trust and believe, soon you’ll get to that place where you’ll see everything clearly, and you’ll finally begin to understand. Everything happens for a reason. You may not understand the reason now, but you will when the time is right.

Realizations

Friends,

As we move along the journey called Life, we unknowingly gain innumerous illuminating experiences and realizations that enlighten us emotionally, physically and spiritually.

My next few posts will be dedicated towards few such experiences and realizations that I have gained from my life so far.

But before I mention some of my realizations/experiences I wanna ask All YOU wonderful people out there to share such enriching experiences or realizations with me and everybody else that would give us an insight about your life. I request you all to take few moments to sit back, relax, close your eyes, and think what all you have learnt from this life so far and share it with us.

Lots of Love
Parul