Friday, August 22, 2008

Realization #2

Sometimes people dislike you for no apparent reason.

It is rightly said, You Can't Please Everyone
When I was a teenager, I was very naïve and innocent. I wanted to please everybody around me and be Ms Goody-Goody. I believed in the phrase, "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you", and so I assumed if I like other people and be nice to them, they would do the same.

But slowly as I started dealing with outside world, I started realizing that however much you do for others, there will still be few who’ll dislike you, bitch about you and would be unhappy with you, sometimes for a reason, and sometimes without any obvious reason. People who don’t even know an inch about you or your life will have all sorts of notions about you that will be anything but true. And sadly instead of being guilty about it, they’ll be pretty content in their sweet ignorance bliss.
Initially all these used to affect me a lot and hurt me real bad. I used to spent sleepless nights over the issue and even shed tears on the irony of human behavior. But now, after all these years the realization has finally dawned upon me and I have swallowed the bitter pill that it is impossible to please everyone.


“Please all, and you will please none.”

So, if today I find out that Mr X doesn’t think highly of me or Ms Y has some wrong notions about me, it hardly matters to me. I have accepted to take these things in my stride and move on without raising a hue or cry over it.

30 comments:

Ankit Avasthi said...

hey parul,

you have hit the nail on its head again!!

there is a popula saying...

"i dont know secret to success but secret to failure is surely trying to please every one."

we should not aim to be nice to every one but we can be fair to all definately.... what say?

regards
Ankit

Anonymous said...

Parul,

My first visit to your space. You have given pearls of wisdom.

I feel sad about Richa. It is sudden unexpected parting which hurts more. May her soul have eternal peace.

Do visit me if you find time. You can click on my id as it is my Url.

Take care

Anonymous said...

thats bang on target :) u cannot please everybody everytime. few guys / gals would always nag and moan abt it.....

all we cud do is keep nearest ones happy (family -- mom, dad, hubby etc etc) and not bother much abt rest....

really we cant go arnd straightening up things with everybody :)

Parul Gupta said...

@ ankit...

yeah u r right...we can't please everybody but we can be fair to all...well said....

Parul Gupta said...

@ niceguy251

thnks u so much for liking my posts...its very encouraging...of course i ll visit ur blog....but gimme the url agn coz there seems to be a problem in the current address...its not working....

Parul Gupta said...

@ buzz

true buzz....its high time we stop feeding those empty minds....

Aphrodite said...

hmmm true true...the realisation dawned on me a while back..but im still findings ways to bloack such things out ...:(

Parul Gupta said...

hey aphrodite...

if u dont mind..ur blog style reminds me of someone...did u blog under some other name earlier

Saim said...

u hv finally found d recipe of good life...always do good as u percieve goodness to be and let it be...dont ever judge urself on a criterion se t by sum1 else
btw...blogrolling u!!!

Rià said...

U r right babes!even i was like tht when i was young. :) But not anymore, it jus doesnt matter to me!

Anonymous said...

Parul,

You can visit me at

o3.indiatimes.com/niceguy251. Apart from current ones may I request you to read those written in Apr 08 and Dec 07 also.

Take care

I'll try 2 be truthful said...

hmmmm , i guess we should please ourselves & then get on with the world

peter said...

yes it's kinda true specially in todays world ...!
a few ppl love bitching and backstabbing ..not coz they are bad ..but cz they dun have anythng else to do !

so it's better to mind ur own job and dun give a sh*t to any damn person around !

Parul Gupta said...

@ comfortably numb

u r right dear...now life is much more peaceful after accepting this truth....

cheers
parul

Parul Gupta said...

@ niceguy

sure i ll def read ur posts

cheers
parul

Parul Gupta said...

@ ria

guess we both r on the same boat...ha ha....my motto now is give a damn to world n please urself...watt say.....

cheers
parul

Parul Gupta said...

@ I'll try 2 be truthful

agreed.....

Parul Gupta said...

@ peter

whoa...so many people r with me on this......

cheers
parul

Mysterious Mia said...

ah babes....exactly the same thing on my mind babes ....

its hard but we have to accept that ppl r always gonna talk n think what they want we cant bog down our lives cos of em inne....

btw first time here nice blog...will see u around often ;) n thansk for stopping by at mines.

Anonymous said...

hey parul,
well u felt the same I did and doing it just now...

when I was at home ... i donno why but everythings seems good...all looked nice....my classmates were good enough to praise me at every success ... my neighbours used to praise me... in fact i didnot knew that the world is not like this around my environment... it might not seem true to u but in the city like Lucknow where i lived till 17... I have'nt seen much of the city.. my school were near by .... my friends used to live near my house... everything quite easily accessible...I learnt a lesson in school that if i have respect for others... in return I would get the same back...

well this was my life few yrs ago...i came to study in cllge ...everything changed... clasmates not co-operative... seems to possess grudge against me... tries to bully each other...howsoever i praise anyone that person will say something or bad when i'm absent...

in the beginning i was really fed up... wept in nights ...used to call home and say i would go back home...cause that small world of mine was quite good to me...

time passed by ... now a realization came to me that this world is far cruel and keep everything to urself ... be selfish ... cause no one gonna help u...

--anujjha

Keshi said...

cute post Parul.

I used to be upset when someone didnt like me lol! but now that I hv grown more cranium in me :) I hv learnt that I cant please the world, neither can the world please me all the time.


Keshi.

Solitaire said...

It is true that we cannot please everyone. Do what pleases you. Too bad if they are not pleased with it.

The Furobiker said...

these realizations posts are really nice.. they bring out the truth in life.. :)
good work

Parul Gupta said...

@ princess mia...

great to have u on my blog...

cheers
parul

Parul Gupta said...

@ reasonsof life...

hey dear u cannot label the whole world as selfish...yeah i agree that there are many bad people out there who sometimes dislike u or do bad to u for no apparent reason but still we shouldn't loose r complete faith in humanity....n become selfish and self-centered ourselves....

cheers dear....
parul

Parul Gupta said...

@ keshi....

hey very valid point that i missed in my post...the world can't please us all the time.....but at the same time even we can't please the world all the time....

so even we fail to do that then how can we expect the world not to fail us all the time....

hmmm.....thnks for the valid point...its always a pleasure to see u here keshi....

love
parul

Parul Gupta said...

@ solitaire

its lovely to see u on my blog after a long time....do drop by more frequently....

cheers
parul

Parul Gupta said...

@ abhishek...

thnks dear....m glad that people have been able to connect with me on realizations....will add few more to it very shortly....

cheers
parul

Mez said...

Totally..i have stopped botherin. Atleast am nice for myself...thtz what matters.

Parul Gupta said...

@ mez...

u r right...being nice to oneself is all that matters....

cheers
parul